Welcome to the Five Fifteens experiment!
Each week I will pick one of the five fifteens a write a blog post with CoachVilles definition and then write from my own perspective about how I view the world from this particular word or phrase, the experiment is to then practice mindfulness with the skill. Use it as a guide or way to view your world, pay close attention to communication, personal connection, relationships and interaction as a whole. When you are mindful do you become more powerful, does your perspective change? What happens when you are walking the talk – not just coaching but living what you do?
What are the Five Fifteens?
They are the bases for both the original Thomas Leonard Coaching System – and all of what we do at CoachVille, They are the language of masterful coaching, but even more so the language of masterful living
The Five Fifteens include: Clarifiers, Frameworks, Style points, Deliverables and Ultimate Outcomes are language patterns that accelerate you from basic coaching skills to a masterful coaching professional they are the core of our Advanced Communication Skills class.
I taught the class a few weeks ago and the discussion was juicy and invigorating. The class connected on a deeper level and wanted to continue the conversation when class ended and the Five Fifteens experiment was born.
Join us each week as I post the theme for our week, together we will share the impact of becoming more aware. Comments and conversation will be integral as we collectively move within the Ultimate Outcomes, Frameworks, Deliverables, Clarifiers and Style Points. Invite your friends and potential clients and players to participate and let them experience the power behind what we all do as coaches!
This week our experiment is mindfulness and attention to Personal Sovereignty.
This is one of the Ultimate Outcomes, and is defined by CoachVille as including independence, choice, control, personal authenticity and integration.
For me Personal Sovereignty speaks of everything that I REALLY am, that deeper truthful self that guides me to walk a path set only for me. My true inner voice, the souls voice. Learning to own that voice and be strong its certainty allows me to live my real purpose in a way that inspires others. It is also a place of challenge as often influence of people, environment, stress, overwhelm, fears and outside forces momentarily speak louder than our souls voice and we stray from our natural path. Finding the way back to authentic self then becomes imperative. In my Personal Sovereignty experiment I want to be mindful in my choices, my responses, reactions and the way I engage with people to be sure I am leading a life based on my souls voice. Also become I want aware of others and try to discern their Personal Sovereignty, recognize when they are moving with true self and when they are off of their true path.
Join me in experimenting with Personal Sovereignty and share on the blog what it means to you, your experiences being with Personal Sovereignty awareness as your guide the week.
In the spirit of play and possibility,
Coach Deanna
The Five Fifteens:
The Ultimate Outcomes
1. Personal legacy.
2. Financial independence.
3. More, or better, opportunities.
4. Design a perfect life.
5. Expand capacity.
6. Fulfilling lifestyle.
7. Business and career success.
8. Relationships.
9. Mastery.
10. Increased performance
11. Vitality.
12. Personal sovereignty.
13. More time.
14. Increased creativity .
15. Stimulating environments.
The Clarifiers
1. Urgent or Important?
2. Addressed or Avoiding?
3. Accurate or Interpretation?
4. Open or Resistant?
5. Internal or External Reference Point?
6. Want or Could/Should/Need?
7. Opportunity or Possibility?
8. Source or Symptom?
9. Opening or Share?
10. Response or Reaction?
11. Create or Eliminate?
12. Problem or Concern?
13. Present or Past?
14. Acceptance or Resistance?
15. Toward or Away From?
The Deliverables
1. Perspective
2. Validation
3. Message
4. Energy
5. Solution
6. Plan
7. Structure
8. Resource
9. Options
10. Caring
11. Training
12. Advice
13. Strategy
14. Feedback
15. Challenge
The Frameworks
1. It’s all solvable, or it’s not.
2. Risk is always reducible.
3. There’s usually a better way.
4. Success is a byproduct.
5. Emotions are our teachers.
6. Delay is increasingly expensive.
7. Inklings are higher intelligence.
8. The answer is somewhere.
9. Self-confidence can be arranged.
10. Memes and genes are evolving at different rates.
11. Work is for joy.
12. Problems are immediate opportunities.
13. People are doing their very, very best, even when they clearly are not.
14. Awareness is unifying.
15. Life is about us, and it’s not personal.
The Style Points
1. Hears what is actually said.
2. Responds cleanly.
3. Takes client’s concerns seriously.
4. Speaks simply.
5. Is light and neutral.
6. Is collaborative.
7. Communicates in full-duplex mode.
8. Fully expresses.
9. Keeps up.
10. Hears between the lines.
11. Uses commonly understood words.
12. Is self-assured.
13. Is client-centric.
14. Is comfortable with problems.
15. Is “with” the client.
It’s a mighty moment when one realizes that Personal Sovereignty is an option, freely available as a choice to anyone. It’s not necessarily easy, but it is simple. It requires abandonment of blame or placing responsibility on external sources. It’s a moment-by-moment decision to take personal responsibility and to make mindful choices.
I’m grateful for the ability to do so. And I have compassion for everyone who is unable, for whatever reasons, to take steps that lead to the joys of personal sovereignty.
I agree Ruth Ann, for those unable to find the strength compassion the only option. I thin ultimately we are here as coaching to provide that strength so Personal Sovereignty becomes more of a natural state – wouldn’t it be amazing to Personal Sovereignty as a class in early education. It is a purpose of mine to fly the flag of Personal Sovereignty and help others to do them same.
Personal sovereignty really expresses itself as my inner voice or intuition, which is a combination of my core values, personality traits and deep rooted beliefs. It is most in evidence when I decide to go against the current.
I think fear is the biggest threat to true personal sovereignty.
Btw, good luck with this new blog!
Christina – I think fear is the biggest threat, but using personal sovereignty in the fear moment helps people get to the truth. It is truth that opens up space for Personal Sovereignty.
This is exciting! I’m in- I’ll join you- I’ll be traveling later today and this will give me lots to think about- I’ll post after I ponder 🙂
Thanks for including me!
I am being mindful of how I respond to others. Being mindful of what I say helps me to be in congruence with my true self. It also assures that I will not sabotage myself with language that does not honor who I am.
This is awesome Deanna. You are a true leader in the Coaching profession.
I’m excited for this series!!!
Wow, a rich, clear, and compelling experiment. Thanks for the perfect timing!
I’m pretty much on the same page as Deanna when I think of Personal Sovereignty. For me, there’s the personal sovereignty that comes out of the mind and the constructed ego, and then there’s the Sovereignty that represents my Authentic Self, the true inner voice that Deanna mentions. I find it impossible to describe the authentic self, because as soon as it’s put into thought and language, it has fallen into the realm of conventional knowing. I listen to it by noting body sensations and by quieting my mind through various meditation practices. With this Authentic Self come peace, compassion, gratitude, and a feeling of oneness with the world. My mind, with its own program of desires, inserts itself into this experience continually, and mastery at aligning the two is an ongoing practice.
Beautifully expressed, Deanna. Being mindful is so important. I will continue to be mindful of my authentic self…who I am becoming and listening to my intuitionand remembering my core values.