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> I use the lesson daily... 
I read the How To Coach Anyone religiously, and forward it to family and friends.
These include powerful tips and techniques that I use in my daily life - better listening skills, how to deal with someone who..., better attitudes to have, etc. I am only a part-time coach, but I am a full-time Dad and husband and self-employed consultant. I use the lessons in this class EVERYDAY! Thanks, CoachVille!
Matt Perelstein, trainer, consultant & personal coach, 
New Directions Workshop, matt@2GetHelp.com
 

>>>magical resource...
I have found the "How to Coach Anyone" lessons useful in an unexpected way. On several occasions, I have shared the information directly with clients. Clients have responded with relief that someone else has named their situation and knows what to do about it. The naming seems to be the magical element. If something has a name, they seem to feel less alone and more comfortable that they are on a productive path, and can manage their challenges. Thanks again for all the wonderful resources. CoachVille member Laurie Weiss, Ph.D. is the author of What is the Emperor Wearing? Truth-Telling in Business Relationships. 
Laurie Weiss, Ph.D., 
Master Certified Coach
"When Change is the Challenge"
 







>>>Learning at its best...
I delight in the How To Coach Anyone Course. I can honestly say that I look forward to the next lesson appearing. Each one is short, succinct, beautifully clear and extremely easy to understand and often fun too. These lessons are so direct and so about now that you can almost feel the person at the other end who has written them. You know you are tapping into a great well of living experience and knowledge. This is teaching at its best. As a relatively new professional coach I really appreciate this resource. It often articulates and confirms what I know and do already. This is invaluable because it is coming from the pen of a master with a wealth of experience. It therefore reassures me that I know what I am doing. This course also teaches me about situations I have not yet experienced and that's great because I know I can refer to the lessons when needed.
Jane MacAllister Dukes
"Where together we can create what alone we can only dream."






>>>Staying ahead of the game...
This module has helped me deal much more professionally with a couple of tough client situations. (Read between the lines: "I didn't have a clue how to handle this situation until I got the information about this *specific* situation in the HTCA lesson. Then, I understood what I was doing -- or not doing -- and moved on to handle it.")
I coach Cultural Creatives, which means that most of my clients are up to some big projects, and making rapid progress. Sometimes we hit snags that stump us both. They keep me scrambling to stay ahead of them, and always ask from me my best. The only thing better than having this tool is being evolved enough to think of the solutions myself -- and I'm working on that! CoachVille provides me with the tools I need to stay ahead of the game and at the top of my form. I'm immensely grateful.
Nancy Boyd
"Unless you know the quality of your own flame, you just become part of someone else's bonfire, swept up in other people's desires and schemes. That's drift vs flow. Be in the flow."

> Thomas always seems to know what I need to know at that moment...
"How To Coach Anyone" is simply amazing. I discover in it new strategies in Thomas´ clear and wise way. In fact, when I begin to read "How to..." it is as he had guessed what I was needing to know: Each lesson answers one of the questions or doubts I've found in my coaching practice. I believe that this e-course is a great example about the powerful tools that Coachville brings to members. Not only clarifies especial ways of coaching different clients, but also helps you to develop observer skills.
Andrea Turchi, Buenos Aires, Argentina
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Lesson #2:
How do you coach someone who doesn't know what they want?

The fact is, most people don't know what they really want.  So, one of the ways we can add value to clients is to help them to figure out what they most want. 

Here are some the ways that you can help a client figure out what they really want...


Work with the client on their values.
When one's values are clear, one's goals become a lot clearer.


Work with the client on their definition of success.
When a person has defined for success for themselves, the is less confusion about their goals. What's important has already been made obvious; life follows from that.


Work with the client to clear up the stuff that's distracting/draining them.
These are called tolerations, unfinished business and diversions.  Sometimes, it's difficult for the client to see what really want when their 'life lens' is dirty, cracked or cloudy.


Get the client working/focused on something that they ARE clear on.
Sometimes, all a client needs is momentum in order to get the perspective they need to know what they really want.


Ask the client what they really enjoyed when they were six years old.
Why six?  Because that's when most kids start formal school and where learning is replaced by information acquisition, conformity and achieving for the sake of parental love.  


Share the Integrity > Needs > Wants Model
Here's how it works...
If you can't figure out, or achieve, what you want, it's probably because your needs aren't being met.  And if you can't seem to get your needs met, it's probably because your integrity is out/off/weak.
And, going in the other direction...
When your integrity is strong, needs are easily met. And when needs are met, one has very, very few wants.

Feel free to share this model with your clients.



or view/printout the .


I hope that this was helpful...

Thomas

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